Is it easier for you to forgive or to forget?
Do you believe people can change?
Has life made you more cynical or more hopeful?
I can forgive a lot easier than I can forget. I spent many years forgiving the same people for the same offenses over and over. I finally learned that it’s less painful to just watch your back than to keep forcing myself to forget what they kept doing. Not a very Christian attitude, I know, but I get tired of being hurt just like any body else.
In spite of that, I do believe people can change. I have changed a lot since the aforementioned events began some 20 years ago. They’ve done some changing, too. And eventually, I believe we will all be changed, just as He said.
I am both more cynical and more hopeful. At this point in my life, I find that the ability to change gives me more hopefulness, but the reality is that few of us do, and that makes me more cynical. I know longer believe that everyone is “a good person underneath”. No, some people are just plain rotten to the core.