Midlife Musings

Reflections on life from 40-something

I got nothin!

January22

Well, that’s not quite true. I have a weather report. Last week, it was so warm, was shopping for personalized golf gifts. This week, I am thinking about wearing my new veryveryvery long scarf. And carrying an umbrella, because I am pretty sure it has rained for at least some portion of the day for the past week.

I am back in the thrall of school. That always means plenty of homework, but this semester has started a bit oddly. Classes started on Wednesday the 11th. The 16th was a holiday. This means that one of my classes meets for the first time tomorrow, even though we are technically 2 weeks into the semester. I wonder how that will play out as far as the workload? The class only meets once a week, but for three hours at a whack. Of course, it is a subject I am very interested in (Military Culture/ Combat Veterans), so I have done a bit of pre-reading.

Tomorrow is also the first meeting of my honor societies, so it will be a very long day. I should probably go to bed soon, but I am not tired. Now what?

Let the List Making Begin

August4

So, I am making lists. What to teach the dog, what to buy the dog, what to clean, what to make, where to go, who to see, what to read, what to watch. Now that summer session is over, I plan to get busy! Especially while my kids are gone. Yes, believe it or not, for the first time in 20plus years, I am going to have several days completely alone, to do whatever I want to do. Well, except for the dog. But he’s simple to feed, he likes to go, and he doesn’t complain much, so it’s all good.

Today, I am specifically looking at dog obedience training websites. I plan to work with My Awesome Boyfriend extensively while there is only one “trainer” in the house. Hopefully, by the end of his confinement, we will be working well together as a team, and I will be able to take him just about anywhere. He gets his first shots next Monday, and the Monday after that, he can go out where other dogs might have been. In this case, freedom for him also means freedom for ME!

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Legacies

February1

Yesterday would have been Grandmother’s 100th birthday. I’ve thought about her a lot the past several days. And, along with her, Granny, Papa and Grandma. Those losses are just stacked together for me, coming as they did one right after the other. It’s…overwhelming to have an entire generation of your family wiped away in such a short time. The move from “grandchild” to “child” is a major thing. No longer is there a two generation buffer between me and “next”, but now only one. Each generation takes care of the one before it and after it, and that means I am now the one in the middle. Its on me. That’s a little bit scary, yk? Can I handle that? Do I have what it takes? Can I balance everything I now need to do, or am I going to drop a plate? Especially now that I am trying to balance school along with all my other responsibilities.

(I’m not including Grand-dad here, he died so long ago, and though I still miss him, his death was not part of that overwhelming time.)

But yesterday was also a major day for me. For the first time, I was able to smile at the thought of those Grandparents having gained their reward, knowing joy forevermore. Should I tell you that I cried myself to sleep Sunday night thinking about them, still selfishly grieving? I think so, it’s part of the story.

All of that brings me to the title of this post: Legacies. You know, we each have two of those; the one we receive and the one we leave. I’m not talking about material goods here, because those are unimportant. I’m talking about life perspectives, how we handle bumps in the road, the things that go into the major decisions we make. Do we operate from a position of love and trust? Or from a place of hate and suspicion? We pick up those mindsets from our role models, but they become self-fulfilling prophecies. If we expect that the world is always out to get us, then it surely will. If we expect good things to come, then that’s what we end up with. Our own actions cause that, and what do we base our actions on? Mindset.

It’s a big enough thought that we ought to be mindful of the legacy we are leaving even as we deal with the one we have received.

Amidst the interruptions,

January18

I got all of half a chapter read in an hour. Well, an hour minus the interruptions: Can I watch a movie? You need to call work? The online bank hates you! You better pay your insurance! Your internet is slow!

And on and on and on. But I will persevere. I will finish! And I will be starting again in 23 minutes. I will not be thwarted by crash diets that work or by technology that doesn’t. At least until it is time to take my timed online history quiz. That *might* be a problem!

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Perverse Question of the Day

January15

Because I am so frequently called “pervert”. Anyway, some people should not be allowed to wonder the internet without supervision, and I am apparently one of them, because here’s what I found today: ceiling tv mounts. And then I had to wonder, do people really put televisions on their ceilings? Or do they buy those things and then put mirrors up instead? Discuss amongst yourselves!

All my words

November16

All my words this month, some thirty one thousand nine hundred and seven teen of them so far have gone toward National Novel Writing Month. I don’t know if anyone will ever read my little book, but I am having a real good time writing it! I’m just here to drop a quick link to diet pill reviews and then it’s right back to the book for me. Hopefully, I’ll have something intelligent to say around the first of December, or after fifty thousands NaNoWriMo words, which ever comes first.

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All my words

November16

All my words this month, some thirty one thousand nine hundred and seven teen of them so far have gone toward National Novel Writing Month. I don’t know if anyone will ever read my little book, but I am having a real good time writing it! I’m just here to drop a quick link to foods to burn fat and then it’s right back to the book for me. Hopefully, I’ll have something intelligent to say around the first of December, or after fifty thousands NaNoWriMo words, which ever comes first.

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All my words

November16

All my words this month, some thirty one thousand nine hundred and seven teen of them so far have gone toward National Novel Writing Month. I don’t know if anyone will ever read my little book, but I am having a real good time writing it! I’m just here to drop a quick link to cheap car insurance and then it’s right back to the book for me. Hopefully, I’ll have something intelligent to say around the first of December, or after fifty thousands NaNoWriMo words, which ever comes first.

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I'm Cass. I am a full-time mom to eight great children, a Christian and a blogger. I'm also a knitter, a reader and a movie watcher. And a collector of eclectic oddities.

For the first time in 18 and a half years, I have my own little corner again. Somewhere along the way, I seem to have lost myself, and now that I realize I'm missing, I'm on the look out for me. You maybe don't know what that means, but then again, maybe you do. Regardless, this is where I'll be when I'm not being a mother or a knitter. This is where I'll be just me. And if no one ever reads it, that's ok. I'll know it's here.


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